I Ching 54 Hexagram guī mèi (The Girl Who Goes to the Bride)
I Ching 54 Hexagram guī mèi (The Girl Who Goes to the Bride)
Short Interpretation of Hexagram 54 – The Girl Who Goes to Bride
Work on your own projects, there will be a better and more fruitful time to share them with others. Do not be guided by instinct for the moment be more rational.
I Ching – General Description
Above is Cenn, the eldest son, below Tui the youngest daughter. The man precedes, the girl follows him happily. The girl’s entrance to her husband’s house is painted. There are, in all, four signs that depict marital relations: No. 31, Hienn, the Influence depicts the commendable attraction in a young couple; No. 32, Hong, the Duration, depicts the lasting relationships of marriage; 53, Tsìenn, the Development, depicts the cautious and ceremonious proceedings in the termination of a proper marriage; finally, Kui Me, the Girl who is going to get married, shows an old man that a girl follows to get married. Remark: In China, monogamy is formally in force. Each man has only one official wife.This union, which affects the two participants less than their families, is concluded with strict observance of the forms. But man retains the right to listen to even sweeter personal desires. Indeed, the best duty of a good wife is to help him in this. In this way the relationship becomes a beautiful and sincere relationship. The girl who enters the family, if chosen by her husband, submits modestly, as the younger sister, to the mistress of the house. We understand that we are dealing here with very difficult and delicate matters, which require a lot of tact on the part of everyone. But when the circumstances are favorable, the solution to a problem that European civilization has not been able to find is encountered here.It is obvious that femininity in China corresponds as little to the ideal as on average marriages in Europe are not in harmony with the ideal of European marriage.
I Ching – Comment on sentence
The girl who goes marry. Businesses bring disaster Nothing that is propitious.
A girl who has been welcomed into a family without being the main wife must behave with particular caution and restraint, she must not set out for her own sake to occupy the place of the hostess, since this would mean disorder and thus would end up in an unsustainable situation. This also refers to all free relationships between men. While the legalmerite relationships ordered reveal a fixed relationship between rights and duties, the duration of the relationships of affection rests exclusively on withholding and discretion. This affection, as the basic principle of relations, is of the utmost importance in all relations of the universe, since the stability of the whole of nature proceeds from the union of heaven and earth, and equally among men free affection is, as an essential principle.
I Ching – Image
Above the lake is thunder. The image of the girl going bride. Thus the noble through the perpetuity of the end recognizes the transient.
The thunder excites the water of the lake that follows it in rippling waves. This is the image of the girl following the man of her choice. However, any union concluded between men implies the danger of aberrations sneaking in which then lead to endless dissensions and misunderstandings. It is therefore essential to take the end into consideration. By just letting themselves be pushed, people meet and separate again as the moment wants. If, on the other hand, one aims at a lasting end, it will be possible to avoid the obstacles that hinder any more intimate human relationship.
I Ching – Series
As you progress, you certainly arrive at the appropriate place. For this he follows the sign: the Girl who gets married (= the girl who arrives at the wedding house).
I Ching – Single Lines
Analytical description of each individual line
I Ching – First line:
Nine at the beginning means:
The girl who marries as a secondary wife. A cripple who can proceed. Businesses bring health.
The princes of antiquity had introduced fixed ranks among the ladies of the palace, who were subordinate to the queen as the younger daughters obey the firstborn. In fact, they came many times from the queen’s family who presented them herself to the groom. The sense is that a girl who comes to an agreement with her wife in a family will not be equaled outwardly to this, rather she will be held modestly behind. But if she is able to fit into the family structure she acquires a completely satisfactory position, and she will feel protected by the love of the spouse to whom she gives children. The same meaning arises in employment relationships. A prince will perhaps have a man with whom he is personally a friend and to whom he places his trust.This man must discreetly give way to the official ministers of state in public.
I Ching – Second line:
Nine in the second place means:
A blind eye that can see. Auspicious is the perseverance of a lonely man.
Here the situation is such that a girl has joined up with a man who disappoints her. Husband and wife must cooperate like the two eyes. Here the girl is left behind alone. The man she chose has either become unfaithful to her or is dead. But she does not lose the interior light of fidelity, even the other eye is extinguished, even in solitude she remains firmly faithful to him.
I Ching – Third line:
Six in the third place means:
The girl who marries as a slave. He marries as a secondary wife.
A girl who is in a low position and cannot find a husband can sometimes marry. The situation is such that too many pleasures are coveted which cannot be obtained in the normal way. Thus one places oneself in a situation that is not entirely compatible with one’s dignity. Neither a sentence nor a warning is added, but the situation is simply revealed as such so that everyone can learn from it for themselves.
I Ching – Fourth line:
Nine in the fourth place means:
The girl who goes to marry procrastinates the term. A late marriage occurs in due time.
The girl is very good, but you don’t want to throw yourself away and thus loses the usual deadline for getting married. But that doesn’t do anything. She is rewarded for her honesty, and finally finds, albeit late, the same husband destined for her.
I Ching – Fifth line:
Six in the fifth place means:
Sovereign I married his daughter. Then the embroidered robes of the august were not as opulent as those of the servant. The moon when it is almost full brings health.
Sovereign I is Ttang, the Ultimator: he promulgated a law according to which imperial princesses also had to submit themselves in marriage to their husbands (cf. N ° 11, line 5). The emperor does not wait for the courtship, but gives his daughters in spite of his own arbItrio. So the initiative on the part of the girl’s family here is right. Here we see a girl of noble lineage who by getting married enters a modest environment and knows how to adapt gracefully to the new situation. She is free from all vanity of external ornament, she forgets her rank in marriage and is subject to her husband, like the moon which, when not yet completely full, does not stand directly in front of the sun.
I Ching – Sixth line:
Six above means:
The wife holds the basket, but there is no fruit inside. The husband hits the lamb, but no blood flows. Nothing that is propitious.
During the sacrifice for the ancestors the wife had to offer the fruit in a basket, the husband had to personally slaughter the animal to be sacrificed. Here the forms fulfill only superficially. The wife takes an empty basket, the husband stabs a lamb that has already been slaughtered, just to keep the shape. But this ungodly and frivolous mentality does not portend a happy marriage.