How to recognize an envious person , is a question we all ask ourselves sooner or later
The first step to defend yourself from an envious person is to be able to recognize them, do you think that is obvious? It is not at all. If you are the victim of an envious person, it is likely that people who love you and who have your happiness at heart rather than you in the first person will notice it more.
Let’s go back to the definition of envy
Unpleasant feeling that one feels for a good or a quality of others that one would like for oneself, often accompanied by aversion and resentment for the one who instead possesses this good or quality; also, the generic disposition to have such a feeling, due mostly to a sense of pride for which it is not tolerated that others have equal or superior qualities, or succeed better in their activity or have greater luck.
Now, assuming that the person who feels envy is basically a whipped person, we must also be aware of our worth and avoid becoming victims.
Characteristics of envious people: How to recognize an envious person
Before proceeding with a list of the characteristics I would like to make a necessary premise: wanting something that belongs to someone else, even simply a quality of their character, is not in itself a problem. However, it becomes so when this frustration directly or indirectly damages a person. Let me give you an example, Jennifer has no mother and is envious of the relationship that her friends have with their mother. Jennifer knows this and is taking a path of acceptance of this great lack of her in her life, not only for herself but also to have the right tools for when she will be a future mother.
Let’s now pass to the characteristics of envious people.
- They do not give pleasure
- Try to belittle your success
- They give a lot of compliments
- Always speak badly of others
- They expect the worst
They have no empathy, they take away your energy, they can’t stand the successes of others, they have few friends, they always blame others, they are bored
1. They do not give pleasure
Listen to your feelings after finishing a conversation on the phone or in person. You are left with the so-called bitter in your mouth , as if you hadn’t explained yourself well, like feeling naked in a square full of people, an unpleasant sensation. But if you try to remember if they have said something unpleasant in a blatant way, nothing comes to mind. But the feeling of discomfort is there, listen to it!
2. Try to belittle your success
Even if you have worked with great passion and intensity to achieve your goals, even if you started “from the bottom” and worked hard and sweat to achieve what you have achieved, even if he is aware of all this, he will try in every way. not to make you feel proud of what you have done.
Always remember that he may not tell you in a blatant way, he could say it in other ways such as: pretending nothing in front of your personal or professional achievement, finding the negative side of your conquest.
Observe his face, especially his eyes, you will see them filled with anger or sad while they are saying something else in words.
Listen to the tone of their voice when they speak to you while communicating your conquest. Didn’t you understand this last step? Then try to say any word using a different tone of voice each time, with joy, with anger, with sadness, with surprise. You understand now?
In this case the ideal attitude is to continue on one’s own path with the humility that has so far distinguished us
3. They give a lot of compliments
You got it right, he gives a lot of compliments. And who among us doesn’t like to be admired? And that’s how you fall into the trap. Compliments are false, an envious person is above all a false person. And he won’t think twice about criticizing you behind your back.
Continue to have faith in yourself and even if compliments are pleasing the key to your happiness lies within you.
A person who compliments you with the heart has other characteristics: it makes few compliments and when it does it adds a little something special to what it says that it is addressed only to you. Furthermore, he always places himself in a constructive confrontation with you. Think now of the times they’ve given you a compliment, can you say they’re all the same?
4. Always speak badly of others
And here we are!
To those who always speak ill of others. A golden rule says that if in front of you a person always talks badly about others, be sure that he will do the same as you when you are not around.
So in addition to being a characteristic of envious people, it is a characteristic that belongs to people who are not good for us. Speech closed?
5. They expect the worst
Envious people always see the empty part of the glass, always and in any case. They are passive towards life and the outside world, they do not take initiatives because they think that things will go wrong anyway. Instead you try to be ready to face the worst but with confidence in yourself and, always with the same confidence, that things will turn out for the best.
They have no empathy, they take away your energy, they can’t stand the successes of others, they have few friends, they always blame others, they are bored.
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